You flame me, I flame you. That's all there is to it. You put kindness in, you'll get kindness out; you put fire in, you'll get fire out. It ain't personal -- hell, I really like you, Shane. I do feel a little betrayed by you though. Either we can have an escalation where we top one another and annoy everyone in the process, or we can sit down and hash this out personally. What I said was fucked up, and I'm willing to apologize for it if you're willing to meet me half way.
And honestly, I've not really asked anyone to open up about anything or tell me any personal details. I asked what she was writing a paper on. Go ahead, don't open up to me, I have plenty of my own problems to worry about.
I'm willing to talk if you are. And I'm willing to tell everyone I was wrong if you'll listen to what I have to say.