Depression Thread - What takes you out of the dumps and what's been bugging you?

[Artful-dodgeR]

Fucking fuck of a fuck. Being yelled at for not helping with baby being put to sleep, being yelled at for not getting baby to sleep when I do try, yelled at for both helping and not helping.

Fuck that. Downed half a fucking bottle of $200 scotch and going the fuck to sleep. She can fucking apologise before I even give her the time of day, let alone any help.

[usedtabe]

And so it begins. Sorry to hear that, but you gotta change that "yelling at me" into "you can discuss this rationally or I'll show you what yelling really is" before it becomes an auto-response to anything she gets aggravated with you about.

[Sam Spectre]

FUCKED IT ALL UP FOR REAL THIS TIME

XOXOFML

[GlowBear]

What's occurring dudemansir?

[ProlificDream]

Okay I'm getting extremely frustrated guys. Israel was like a breath of fresh air, everything seemed right. It was nice to be away from all my problems and worries for a minute. It also helped a bit with my mom. When I got back to Nebraska I felt all frustrated again. I can't explain it. Today I was telling my boyfriend about how cute my one friend and her boyfriend is. He just does nice things for her from time to time like roses and randomly getting her food. She doesn't ask for it she just gets it as a surprise. I told my boyfriend about it and he basically said he's cheating. I can't believe that romantic guys can just be labeled as cheaters though. I mean seriously are any guys still romantic these days? Does it mean they are cheating?

[Panzadolphin56]

How is it 'cheating'?

[usedtabe]

Similar to the situation where a girl will only blow her boyfriend/husband but saves the sex for her "lover".

[ProlificDream]

It's hard to believe that every guy that is remotely romantic is a cheater...

[Sir Legendhead]

It's hard to believe that every guy that is remotely romantic is a cheater...

Don't listen to Used's cynical bullshit. Your boyfriend loves you. Believe that.

[usedtabe]

Don't listen to Used's cynical bullshit.

Maybe not, but Gatsby's post above is spot on the money.

[Sir Legendhead]

Hmm. Cold and calculating as always, Gats.

I had a girl like that once.

She got shot, and nobody cared.

Except me.

I'm a little too soft sometimes.

[Panzadolphin56]

Aren't you guys jumping the gun a little? Pro's only said 'from time to time', I agree if he does random nice things on a daily basis it seems suspicious but if he just does one nice thing a week or something that just seems normal if he loves her :/

How often we talking about Pro?

Hmm. Cold and calculating as always, Gats.

I had a girl like that once.

She got shot, and nobody cared.

Except me.

I'm a little too soft sometimes.

Is that the girl you talked about before?

[Sir Legendhead]

Is that the girl you talked about before?

She was a full grown woman last I checked.

She's still alive. Thank you for asking.

[Panzadolphin56]

I apologise for showing interest :|

[Sir Legendhead]

I apologise for showing interest :|

LOL. Dude, I didn't mean to be rude about it.

I'm just not used to sharing personal business over the internet.

[Wry Guy]

The problem with giving gifts regularly is that it sets a precedent, especially if the other person does not feel any pressure to return the sentiments in any way and just expects the scales to be uneven.

It's a potential sign that somebody's cheating on their girlfriend, yes, if that person isn't nice and friendly in general. There are genuinely good natured guys out there, just not many. I mean, if this guy's name comes up and everyone goes "Oh, that guy! That guy's pretty gosh darn swell" then you don't need to be quite as suspicious I think.

[usedtabe]

>comparing your relationships to others

You're always going to find something wrong with yours when you do that.

[GlowBear]

Okay I'm getting extremely frustrated guys. Israel was like a breath of fresh air, everything seemed right. It was nice to be away from all my problems and worries for a minute. It also helped a bit with my mom. When I got back to Nebraska I felt all frustrated again. I can't explain it. Today I was telling my boyfriend about how cute my one friend and her boyfriend is. He just does nice things for her from time to time like roses and randomly getting her food. She doesn't ask for it she just gets it as a surprise. I told my boyfriend about it and he basically said he's cheating. I can't believe that romantic guys can just be labeled as cheaters though. I mean seriously are any guys still romantic these days? Does it mean they are cheating?

No it does not. Your boyfriend doesn't know that (unless he does, I mean did the other guy confided this to him?). You can get boys that are what others deem to be overly romantic, as much as the next person. It can just mean simply, they really like their girlfriend, they feel they HAVE to or they are just lovely like that. Being romantic is not just a lovely feeling for the personal getting lavished upon, but for the person doing it too in plenty of cases.

Being nice should not always equate negativity. It's how we all start to lose trust, but I can see why some people would worry.
There are romantic guys out there, men shouldn't be given up on or thought illy of because of the actions of others in their gender.

Just don't worry about it.

illy? dafuq did I type

[ProlificDream]

Thanks glow.

And Panza has it right on the spot. I said time to time. The guy doesn't do this stuff every day but every couple weeks or once a month I see some awesome romantic thing he did for her or she tells me about it. My boyfriend was saying he must be cheating when I told him about it. I don't believe that one bit I think the guy just really loves her. I agree if it happens everyday there is something fishy about it... But come on why can't someone do something nice for the person they love without it being suspicious? I don't find anything wrong with it.

[panchromatic]

Y'all missing the point of flowers being the most pointless thing ever. There's probably something poetic in the ~*fleeting nature*~ of it all, but at the end of the day, they're going to die within days and leave a mess all over the joint. And guess who's going to clean it up?

Pass.